Four rules of dating that girl

I realized something today.

I've been thinking of asking this girl out for a long time now. And all would be good and would have gone according to plan. With one exception though: I had a plan. And I was getting nervous.

We, men, get nervous every time it comes to girls. Some say they have no trouble with women, but I bet you a million bucks they are still trembling there when they shift gears. "Can I have your number?" "Do you want to go out to dinner with me?" Some have done this thousands of times. Maybe those some don't fear rejection. Not me.

I always rehearse in front of a mirror. I always perform terabytes of calculations in my head before the next approach. But you know what I found? I end up throwing it all out, often my mind is busy "DELETING APPROACH SCRIPTS..." as I am right in front of her. In that moment it makes me think "This was so useless! It is so much easier to go with the flow!"

It kind of reminds me of that guy from Office Space who got hypnotized and he was able to ask a girl out the very next day. Why can I not do that? Why can I not convince myself that I am complete and perfect as I am? Why can't we all?

So I came to the true conclusion:

1. If you think you should ask the girl her number, that is EXACTLY what you should do.
2. If you think you should call the girl, that is EXACTLY what you should do.
3. If you think you should ask the girl out, that is EXACTLY what you should do.
4. If you think you should ask the girl to spend the rest of your life with you, that is EXACTLY what you should NOT do.

Not that you were going to to #4 anyway, right? :)

I feel happy now. I feel happy that I am going to do it. I feel happy that I am oblivious to her response if she says "no." Life goes on.

Like Mika said, "Live your live until love is found, 'cause love is gonna get you down!"

Mikhail Temkine, 2008